There are just a few of the things I’ve heard from my clients and I wonder if you are asking yourself something similar?  You are looking for a sex therapist because you have at least a shred of interest in figuring out the answers to these questions and understanding your thoughts.

Listen, I know your relationship to yourself or your partner(s) is important, and having a sexual relationship is what distinguishes this relationship from others. 

I can also appreciate the question of why one ought to feel sexual desire in the absence of sex worth wanting.

Stress, medications, aging, illness, child bearing and rearing, relationships shifts, mood, work, schedules, and LIFE can all get in the way of wanting to reach out to connect.

You can feel the tension between you and your partner. Is it normal to not be aligned in how much you want to be sexual? How do you even go about approaching this sort of thing? Are you wondering if your low libido is your problem, your partner’s problem, or a problem you share? I’ve got you. We can make sense of this together. 

Let’s figure out when all this started, when you noticed it, what you’ve already done to address this, and what you want to see change. We can make this feel a little less daunting.